Is also anybody rain fell explains of your universe starting when they themselves must be enthusiastic about each decision. The goal is to become united purpose and spirit, not to overpower or control each other. Think of it as creating a mutually enjoyable lifestyle. On 's Day old got on a bus one February 14th, carrying a dozen roses. He sat beside a The looked at the roses and said, Somebody's going to get a beautiful 's Day gift. Yes, said the old A few minutes went by and the old noticed that his companion was staring at the roses. Do you have a girlfriend? the old asked. I do, said the I'm going to her right now, and I'm going to give her this 's Day card. They rode silence for another 10 minutes, and then the old got up to get off the bus. As he stepped out into the aisle, he suddenly placed the roses on the 's lap and said, I think wife would want you to have these. I'll tell her that I gave them to you. He left the bus quickly. As the bus pulled away, the turned to the old enter the gates of a cemetery. Unknown I'm very neat. wife is messy never picks anything up. Doesn't even notice the mess it's below her radar. I cured myself from annoyance with her by imagining that she had died and then asking myself, If you could bring her back to life but she'd still be messy, leave clutter all over the house 5 pairs of shoes the living room, would you still want her back? Yes, for sure! And, it cured me. Whenever I get annoyed with her mess, I rerun the script. Marriage Makeover workshop Marriages Conference Writers say that is concerned only with people, and the excitement and glamour of romance end at the altar. How blind they are. The best romance is inside marriage; the finest stories come after the wedding, not before. When two people are under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions, they are required to swear that they remain that excited, abnormal and exhausting condition continuously until death do them part. Shaw A grandfather talking at his granddaughter's wedding about the experience of a spouse: People imagine that a loved one works kind of like missing cigarettes. The first day is really hard and the next day is less hard and forth, easier and easier the longer you go on. But instead it's like missing water. Every day, you notice the person's absence more. The greatest weakness of most humans is their hesitancy to tell others how much they them while they're still alive. Olando Battista A psychiatrist asks a lot of expensive questions your wife asks for nothing. Adams The RealAge web site recommends finding a reminder buddy to improve your health, one with whom to exercise, eat right, etc. Reminder such a nice term for the role of a spouse, sounds much better than nagging. Sollee, The sad truth, had to admit as she drove over to the Empire Grill, was that she'd gone and divorced a she could talk to and married one she couldn't. Richard Russo, Eight-Cow Wife: Lingo lived the South Pacific. The islanders all spoke highly of this but when it came time for him to find a wife the people shook their heads disbelief. order to obtain a wife you paid for her by giving her father cows. Four to six cows was considered a high price. But the woman Lingo chose was plain, skinny and walked with her shoulders hunched and her head down. She was very hesitant and shy. What surprised everyone was 's offer he gave eight cows for her! Everyone chuckled about it, since they believed his father--law put one over on him. Several months after the wedding, a visitor from the U.S. came to the islands to trade and heard the story about Lingo and his eight-cow wife. Upon meeting and his wife the visitor was totally taken back, since this wasn't a shy, plain and hesitant woman but one who was beautiful, poised and confident. The visitor asked about the transformation, and Lingo's response was very simple. I wanted eight-cow woman,